He hated me, but he was a liar...

I feel a strong need to share this. Some experiences just come your way to fortify you. I've healed now, but I hope this helps someone heal, too.

Oh, by the way... long post alert. You need to read through to see what "he" lied about. 

Many years ago, at the baby-steps stage of my career, I was so heavily talked down by "the" boss. I can't even describe how heavily. But, boy, it was intense. I had a line manager who was pleasant and ready to work with me because he believed in me, but the boss was the exact opposite. Read on...

He would talk me down the moment I wasn't doing anything that yielded results "his" way. Openly say hurtful things to me. He would literally use the "f" word at me in departmental meetings. I would say "Good morning (his name here)" but he would scan me from head to toe and walk past like I was a wisp of smoke. His hate/anger/disgust/whatever-you-want-to-call-it for me reeked so bad, my colleagues would ask, "what did you do to this guy?" "If you offended him, apologise." And so on. This guy deflated my career-ego while it was barely a sapling.

At a point, he wanted to terminate my appointment and went through the HR, but she found no reason legitimately strong enough to fault me for termination (God bless her soul wherever she is). So he moved to frustrate me all the more, hoping I would bend over backwards and eventually resign.

His attitude toward me attracted the attention of some lower members of management. They would talk to me about looking past his "workplace bullying" and just focus on growing myself and my career. They could not do anything about it! They fanned his ego but bandaged mine. I went to work each day praying, "Lord, let me get through today without a sneer or insult from this guy."

I remember narrating the story to some people about 2 years ago when I moved to a new office, with tears in my eyes. Even if I wasn't the best (at that time), I was by no means the worst or the names he called me.

At some point in our lives, we come across such people or situations - where we are made to feel less worthy, less qualified, less valuable than we really are. Sometimes, it's a friend we trusted. Sometimes it's our family, spouse, bank account, or like me, a superior at work. So, what do we do? We rise. We move. We get up and grow up, and we must never give up. We must never let "them" define who "we" are. We must remain well-grounded in our understanding of who God says we are, not that person or situation. No one and no situation can lay a charge against you! (Romans 8:33)

Up until my exit from that company (which was on my own terms), I respectfully did my work to the best of my ability and to the wonder and awe of my colleagues, some of who say they could never have stayed that long under such a toxic person. I chose to keep my dignity and not lower my guard because I had so much to look forward to than the four walls of a company run by a personwho bullied others to feel superior and in-charge. 

You see, dear reader, words are powerful. So very powerful. Powerful enough to empower you and to break you (Proverbs 18:21). No one has the right to talk you down. Absolutely no one. God has called you elect, precious, beautiful, marvellous, apple of His eye and a whole lot more. He hated me, but God was with me, and still is. I had to brainwash his ugly, baseless words away with prayers and word-confessions for many months and even years. I had to believe God's counsel. I had to trust His word. Gradually, I regained my confidence, my charisma, my audacity rose, my resolve renewed. I simply came to embrace my superpowers, and I didn't care that someone else despised them for their own personal reasons.

Sometimes, that's all you need to heal from whatever your scenario is - a turbulent relationship, a tempestous marriage, a rough office environment, financial troubles, health problems, name it. Affirm, re-affirm and continue to affirm His words about you to yourself. Tell yourself how special and loved you are. Tell yourself how beautiful or handsome you are. Tell yourself how skilled you are. How brave you are. How deserving of that job you are. How rich you are. How unique you are. How precious you are. How exceptional and marvellous you are. One of a kind. A new creation. Chosen of God. His masterpiece. Honourable vessel. Perfect in His sight. His beloved.... shall we even begin to continue this list??? 

Learn to shut down the voices around you that try to tear you down. Focus on the word of God that forever builds you up. 

Romans 3:4;  ...let God be true, but every man a liar; as it is written, That thou mightest be justified in thy sayings, and mightest overcome when thou art judged.

To conclude my subject title for this blog - He hated me, but he was a liar because he did not speak God's truth about me. 

Every person or situation that does NOT speak God's truth about you is a liar. So, in conclusion. Forget what that person or situation said/says. God is your glory. You are special, and you know it.

Psalm 3:3; But thou, O Lord, art a shield for me; my glory, and the lifter up of mine head.